7 Unexpectedly Important "Firsts" in Every Person’s Life
Movies love to tell the tale of a lot of “firsts” — your first kiss, your first school dance, your first whatever-romantic-garbage. Of course, there are some firsts they never touch on, but that doesn’t make them not important. They’re not life ruiners, but they’re big deals, even if you don’t quite realize it right away. Here are the unexpectedly major firsts in everyone’s life:
First Time Your Friends Exclude You
The only way to describe this experience? Devastating. When you’re young (and it’s pretty much impossible for this to not happen to you for the first time while you’re still very young) you have a core group of friends; it’s not like you’re able to have a few different groups to hang out with. That’s why the first time the rest of them don’t invite you somewhere, or you get left out of a group project in school, you are crushed. Friendship is not guaranteed, my friends, and you have to come to terms with that. Sometimes you’re going to have to make do writing a report about sharks with the other solo losers.
First Time You Realize You’ve Been Lied To “For Your Own Good”
When I was in high school, my Mom told me that every time you smoked pot, you had a twenty percent chance of “overdosing”. Then my friend (who we’ll call “Matt?”) smoked pot at least once a day for … probably around a month, and I realized that Matt? was proof that my Mom was more interested in me not smoking pot than she was in being honest.
First Time You Push A Door You Were Supposed To Pull
You idiot, what the hell is wrong with you? That’s how I feel every single time I push a pull door, and the first time it happened was the worst. It was the first reminder that, no matter how hard I tried, I would constantly screw up even the simplest of tasks.
First Time You Back Down From Conflict
When you’re really young, you don’t need to worry about any kind of conflict getting that serious. Oh, did I take your blocks? What’re you going to do, take a huge dump in your diaper? But the first time you realize the situation is serious, and you need to make sure that person doesn’t seriously hurt you, whatever it takes, is a big one. The world is a scary place, but it isn’t immediately apparent how scary until that moment.
First Time You Have To Eat Terrible Food As If It Weren’t Terrible
When I was young, I was a real sack of trash. My friend’s dad made me hot dogs with ketchup on them, which I loathed? Wouldn’t eat ‘em! Then, however, you reach a certain age where you realize that it is horribly rude to refuse food that someone made for you, and you accept that every meal is not going to be perfect. After that happens, however, you are going to come up against a meal that is TRULY terrible, but you’ll know then that you must take your dedication to not offending your host to its most extreme degree, and you will eat the garbage you’re being served. It’ll be a big moment. A big, gross moment.
First Time You Feel Bad About A Joke
Whoops! You made an offensive joke, and someone was actually offended by it for the first time ever. Congratulations, you have to accept that you do not always have the correct amount of empathy for the people in your life. Hey, you’re human, it’s not the end of the world. What is important is that you react to it in a grown up way, which means telling the person to calm down, not be so sensitive, and then being a big baby about it for the next two weeks.
First Time You Commit A Crime
Mine was tax fraud. I am Wesley Snipes.
What was a crushing moment of reality for you? Let us know in the comments!